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Sooner or Later

This year, I will attend four weddings, and hopefully no funerals. These four weddings involve people I have known for at least eight years, and all of the grooms are people who seemed the least likeliest to get married. Not a fear of love or relationships in general, just a fear of the institution that is marriage. Save us from the ball and chain, indeed.

None of these guys are rushing into marriage. Each one has been with their respective partners for at least two years. And thankfully for me as the friend, I like all of their future wives. So, no end of the friendship because of choosing a polarizing spouse.

I'm sure at some point in the past they've said, "I'm never getting married." I will not confirm or deny that I've said the same, but it's not like people lie when they say that. When they see a lot of dysfunctional relationships over the years, of course that leaves a negative impression. The thinking usually is, Why should I be miserable with someone when I can miserable by myself?

My attitude is, we all want to love and be love. The harder you fight that, the harder life is. A bottle of Jameson isn't going fulfill the void left by a lost love. That bottle could certainly pass the time, but sitting at home pouting isn't going help either.

So I look forward to celebrating my friends' nuptials. I won't lie that I love to cut a rug on the dance floor. And I choose to leave my options open if the possibility presents itself in the future. Better to live life with unlocked doors that doors that are sealed shut.

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